TRUSTING

"I love him but I just don’t trust him."
"I love her but I just don’t trust her."
How can there be love without trust?

Real, lasting relationships are built
on trust. Trust is the basis of all
relationships. If you are unable
to trust the person you love, how
can your relationship grow. Trust
does not arrive instantly. It is
something that happens over the
course of the dating process.
If you have been through hurtfull
relationships trust comes difficulty.
If trust hasn't been a problem for
you in the past and your gut is
telling you to something is wrong
with what your partner is sharing,
take it as a warning. Take a closer
look at who he/she is, how he/she
treats others and how he/she treats
you. Let your conscience be your
guide.
In spite of all the bad habits we try
to hide in the early stages of dating,
eventually your partner begins to
glimps the real you. I am talking
about the way you act when angry,
tired, frustrated, elated or just
speaking and communicating with
your family and friends.
Your partner has to love you as
you are, not as they hope you
might be.
When they says I like you as you
are, they are saying they like
you unconditionally
……they are willing to accept you
as you are without trying to
change you.
Wouldn’t that statement take a lot
of pressure off of you?
Isn’t it better than hearing “Well
you could lose some weight you
know, you are always eating.” or
“Why don’t you cook me meals
like Jodie does for Paul”
Trust is the beginning of open
honest communication between
partners. If you are constantly
worried about what your partner
is feeling you have a
communication problem. Listening
and asking questions help you
know more about the partner
and their goals and dreams.
You need to be comfortable
sharing what your are
thinking and feeling.
Remember trust is not one sided.
Arguing in a relationship if done
correctly will sometimes bring
relationships closer.
You must both stay on the topic
and not resort to name calling
and stick to the facts only. Be
careful when saying things that
may hurt your partner.
Sometimes there is no way to
take back a hurtful statement.
Hurtful things said is like a stain
on a carpet that is difficult to
remove.