LEAVING ABUSE BEHIND!

IS IT TIME TO GO?
Maybe you know realize you are in

big trouble, with no where to turn,

maybe you suspect the relationship

you are in can not be saved,

maybe you are not quite ready

to leave? Even when friends and

relatives beg you to leave. No one can

make the decision to leave but you.

Some people have to first release

their demons before leaving.

It is a mental separation that

begins and ends roughly within 6

months to a year. It is an inside healing

that occurs within us. Sometimes

we don’t survive it, but many

times we do. It is a risky thing to

wait for but many people who are

removed from the home before this

occurs goes back. They may die

at the hands of their abuser.
Leaving without anything could

be a financial risk, but I would

be willing to trade money and materials

for safety for my family and myself.

How about you? Make sure you take

your important papers birth certificates

etc. If your abuser, has control of your

papers. Have a relative or friend

get copies of these papers for you

and hold on to them. Begin to

remove clothes slowly to hide at a

relative or friend’s home. It is not

in your best interest to trust your

loved ones family. Their loyalty

regardless of events will be foremost

with their family member. Please

begin to talk. Do not be ashamed.

Tell people what is going on.

It is for your own protection.
Call the National Domestic Violence

Hotline 1-800-799-7233 USA

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Hotline 1-800-363-9010 Canada

In both English and French.
What is abuse?
Verbal Abuse
Name Calling: Sarcasm, ridiculing, put downs

Threats: To kill or damage property,

to kill self, pets or harm friendships.

Intimidation: Creating fear with facial

expressions, tone of voice, gesture or

stopping another's movement; breaking

into vehicles, houses, destroying property,

pets.
Emotional Abuse
Continuous criticism: Extreme jealousy,

denying privacy.

Isolation: From contact with friends

and family; restricting who

partner can see and talk to,

where partner can go, not

letting partner work or go to school.

Domination: Always being the boss,

having all the power.

Using Children: Using visitation to harass

partner, sending messages through

the children, turning children

against partner by criticizing partner.
Financial Abuse
Controlling all the money,

concealing joint assets or

shared money, keeping

partner impoverished,

blowing all the family money.
Physical Abuse
Pushing, slapping, hitting, kicking,

choking, hair pulling, biting,

using weapons, tying up a

person, locking them in a

room, preventing sleep.
Sexual Abuse
Forced sex or being forced to

perform sex acts they do

not want to do, rape or

physically attacking the sexual

parts of another's body.
System Abuse
Violating restraining orders,

child custody agreements,

using the legal system to harass,

telling lies about a partner

to police, counselors or the courts.

Broken Hearts, Broken Dreams