FAMILY LIFE!

FAMILY LIFE AS IT SHOULD BE!
Throughout Time, the family has been described as
the foundation of society. In a strong, well-functioning
family, physical and emotional needs are met.
Family ties, provide us the love and security we
need for a happy comfortable life. It is in this type of
family that children grow into well-adjusted adults
through example, instruction and discipline.
Marriage and Divorce
I did not want to use the bible to explain to you how
sacred the marriage vows are. Many people are
Atheist or hold other religious belief YET I still believe
they must have some kind of moral contribution to
society and wish to have a good family life and to
be proud of Thier children.
The bible describes the rite of marriage as such:
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,
and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh:
so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
What therefore God hath joined together, let not man
put asunder. (KJV, Mark 10:6-9)
During biblical times the husband was treated
as “king” of the household and the wife as his
helper. The husband worked diligently to provide
material needs and protection while the wife
worked diligently at domestic chores.
Today things have changed with the new
definitions of family and the major expenses
and psychological needs to survive in this world.
The family we knew which consists of a mother
and father is not always there. Instead we have
two adults regardless of their sex, raising a family
together.
The facts remains one still has to lead and one has
to support. Regardless of how we divide the new
roles and responsibilities in our marriages, we
must be sure the marriage fulfills its essential
family functions and provides a loving environment
for children to grow into responsible adults. Unselfish
love is the GLUE that holds families together.
In marriage we must subdue our own egos and
selfish pride for the sake of the family. It is very
important to plan with each other what roles you
both expect to play.
This quote says it all:
Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous;
love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not
act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is
not provoked, does not take into account a wrong
suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness,
but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes
all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
(NAS, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
DIVORCE is a great tragedy:
It often leaves the marriage partners embittered and
disillusioned. It robs the children of the love and
security of a healthy family and denies them a
good role model for their own future marriages.
The expense of divorce may consume the family
savings and with each partner working and the
expense of maintaining separate households
there is more work and less time for each parent
and their precious children. Yet some families
survive it by burying their differences to be able
to give their children the best of both worlds.
A GREATER EFFORT is needed every day to keep
our marriages strong and not let them drift toward
divorce.
We must put aside our anger, forgive our spouse
a million times over, always be faithful, subdue our
own pride and ego, and always let love guide our
actions. I am referring to a marriage in good
standing not one in the throes of ABUSE.
Interesting bible passages in reference to
marriages:
Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because
your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital
unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
(NIV, Matthew 19:3-9)
A wife must not leave her husband. But if she is separated from
him, let her remain single or else go back to him. And the
husband must not divorce his wife.
(TLB, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11)
"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery';
but I say to you, that everyone who looks on a woman to lust for
her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
(NAS, Matthew 5:27-28)
Adultery destroys marriages.
Unfortunately, some marriages cannot be saved
after adultery and the partners go their own way.
When one partner seriously violates the marriage
contract, as by emotional, physical or sexual
abuse, the marriage cannot endure. None of us
should feel obligated to endure an abusive
relationship. Parents and Children The most
important function of the family is the raising
of children. We must meet the physical needs
of children and teach them how to grow into
well-adjusted, responsible adults.
CHILDREN LEARN the roles of the parents
from us. Schools can teach the knowledge and
skills needed to earn a livelihood, but children
learn their values firstly from the example and
teaching of their parents. As parents we must
both practice and preach our values. Children
will sometimes reject our teachings, but don’t
give up. Keep up your teachings. I want you to
know things I buried in my subconscious from
my mother came back to me when I had kids.
I rejected it at the time but when I needed to
use it, It was there for me. Parents are not
perfect, but a good parent loves and cares
for their children, and forgives them many times
over. Children should obey and respect their
parents. Unfortunately this is not always the
case. Parents should have authority over their
children. Children should Listen to their father's
advice and not despise an old mother's
experience. Get the facts at any price, and
hold on tightly to all the good sense you can
get. Through discipline, children learn the
consequences of their actions and learn to
control their behavior. Harsh parenting style
based on corporal punishment does not
produce good children.
Unfortunately, beating, spanking and verbally
abuse, only embitters the child and teach him
or her to control others by physical force. The
child may change his or her behavior out of fear
but does not learn self-control. He will use this
force on his family
and THE CIRCLE OF ABUSE BEGINS!.
Don't keep on scolding and nagging your
children, making them angry and resentful.
Take their good points and build them up.
Show them their strengths and weaknesses in
a good light. We are all different and if one is
good in school, the other may not be. He or
she could have other talents. We must show
our Children to accept responsibility for their
own actions. Wrong is wrong and evil is evil.
It cannot be not justified because "Everybody
does it," or "I won't get caught," or "I won't
get punished," or "I was mad," or "I just felt
like it," or "I wanted it," or "I did it to get back
at __________." (Fill in the blank: my
parents, teacher, brother, sister; that bigot,
bully, cheater, grouch, show-off, hypocrite, etc.:)
A strong and supportive family bonds husband
and wife in a union of love and mutual respect.
A family should be a refuge from the pressures
and disappointments of the world. A home is the
place to go for protection, love, training and
discipline.
MAKE YOUR HOME YOUR CASTLE!!