CHEATING

Infidelity
When a person engages in a relationship with
another that violates the sanctuary of marriage
or a steady relationship the breakdown of trust
has occurred.
The individual willfully decided to seek
fulfillment through someone else without the
other partner knowing about it.
The unsuspecting spouse unwittingly may be still
cooking, cleaning, and building their special
relationship that no longer exists.
Many partners who have broken the bonds of the
relationship have no idea why their spouse or
partner is devastated after finding them out.
They see it as a wild moment taken where
neither party should be perturbed.
How do you explain to them that trust has been
violated and the unsuspecting party has been
fooled and now may feel ashamed?
Yes ashamed, that they unwittingly went on with
the partnership in the view of others who may
have known or suspected the affair.
Telling a friend that their partner is cheating the
hardest thing to do. It can cause the friendship to
dissolve if the friend is not believed or if the
relationship once again begins the friend will be
ousted from the victim’s life.
Forgiving a partner who has been unfaithful is not
as easy as it seems. Betrayal takes a long time to
heal.
Its almost like the saying "Be careful what
you say as it will leave scars for life."
This is also true in this case.
Without therapy and a good commitment these
relationships tend to fail. It may take a lot of
work to bring back trust and to discover where
the relationship failed.
Forgiveness may take a very long time.
Rome was not built in a day!
Sadly, there are situations in which forgiveness
is desirable, but reconciliation is unlikely and
sometimes not advisable.
There may be the case of a repeat offender or
a sexual addict.
Infidelity is every married person’s worst
nightmare.
With more and more unmarried relationships
popping up, we have to wonder why?
Is the pain of infidelity worse when married?
NO.
If I have spent 3 years in a relationship that has
come to be destroyed by infidelity the pain is
no less.